Importance of Parenting !

The most important relationship on this planet is the parents and child relationship. Parenting is a funny and versatile skill to achieve, no one knows what is the perfect way of Parenting because there is no perfect way! Whether you brought a child in this world in a whim or you planned for it, it does not matter. Now it is a 20 years project for you. How you will be in these 20 years will decide hugely whether you produce a brat or a gem. Let us look at some ideal way of Parenting!

# Creating the Atmosphere:

Creating the necessary ambiance is a large part of parenthood. You must create the right kind of atmosphere – a certain sense of joy, love, care, and discipline both within yourself and in your home. The only thing that you can do to your child is to give him love and support. Create a loving atmosphere for him where intelligence will naturally flower. If you want fruit from a tree, you water the root. The same goes with parenting, you just create the necessary atmosphere, rest will happen on its own. A child looks at life pristinely. So you sit with him and look at life fresh like he does. You do not cripple his mind with your thoughts, you just stay with him. Your child need not do what you did in life. Your child should do something that you did not even dare to think about. Only then will this world progress and something happens.

A basic responsibility that humanity has to fulfill is to ensure that the next generation of human beings is at least one step ahead of you and me. The next generation must live a little more joyful, with less fear, less prejudice, less entanglement, less hatred, less misery. We must aim for this. Your contribution to the next generation should be that you do not leave a brat in the world, you should leave a human being who is at least a little better than you.

# Know your Child needs:

Some parents in their aspiration or ambition to make their children super-strong, super-intelligent have unnecessarily put their children through too much hardship. They want their children to become what they could not become. In trying to fulfill their ambitions through their children, some parents have been extremely cruel to children. Other parents, believing that they are very loving to their children have over-pampered them and made them powerless and useless in the world.

There is no standard rule for all children. Each child is different. It is a certain discretion. No perfect line can be drawn as to how much to do and not do. Different children may need different levels of attention, love, and toughness. If you were to come and ask me while I am standing in the coconut garden, “How much should I water each plant?” I would say “A minimum of fifty liters.” But if you go home and pour 50 liters for your rose plant, it will die. So you must see what kind of plant you have in your house. You must pay as much attention as you can to your child.

# Learn from your Child:

For most of the parents, it is the other way around. as soon as a child is born, it is time to become teachers. When a child is born, it is not the time to become a teacher, it is time to learn because if you look at yourself and your child, your child is more joyful, isn’t it? You were the same but there was no one to tell you how to be joyful in your survival as well but now your child has you. So it is time you learn life from them, not the other way around. The only thing that you can teach your child – which you have to, to some extent – is how to survive. It is a transaction process with your child. You learn from them how to be alive always and you teach them the techniques of survival.

# Just Let him be:

If parents are truly concerned about their children, they must raise their children in such a way that the child will never have any need for the parent. The process of loving should always be liberating, not an entangling process. So when the child is born, allow the child to look around, spend time with nature, and spend time with himself. Create an atmosphere of love and support and don’t try to impose your morals, ideas, religion, or whatever in any way. Just allow him to grow, allow his intelligence to grow, and help him look at life on his terms. Just keep an eye on your child whether he is not going off track by some unwanted social influences. If he is going off track it is your job to keep him on the right track but do not cripple his mind with your own beliefs and never make the way of life easy for him. Just do what is needed, what he cannot accomplish without your support. Nothing more, nothing less.

# Be the idol of your child:

The most important thing which is missing almost entirely in the parenting phase of children. Your child should grow up in the way whenever he looks at you he should say "I want to be like him". For this to happen you do not have to do any fancy things, you do not have to fulfill all your child wanting, you do not have to take any strict action. You just need to do one thing, "You treat everyone the way, you want others to treat you." You must remember one thing your child does not listen to you but he observes you. He may not listen to a single thing you utter but he observes you thoroughly, every moment. Your action, your response, your personality will observe everything. This will decide whether you are raising a remote control machine or a true full-fledged human being.

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